Very convincing argument SuperMeg, and I must say I agree that the lazy people are the ones that complain the loudest despite the opportunities that they do have. I know this wonderful family from Guatemala, parents moved here years ago and the kids were born here. The parents work nonstop to give their kids everything, and here's what I see...
The oldest one is in community college now, but very directionless. He talks about film school and his interest in the arts, but there's no motivation. He doesn't undertake any personal film projects even though his parents got him a camcorder and a digital camera. I've given him scholarship applications, told him about internship opportunities, given him job leads, but he gives minimal effort. He would rather sit on his butt and watch movies than go out and make something of the available opportunities. He calls once, and if no one answers he gives up. It's a running joke with him that if anything doesn't go his way "It's because I'm brown."
Now his younger brother just started high school, but is completely different. He's expressed an interest in becoming a chef, but he doesn't sit on his ass and talk about it all day. He helps his mom in the kitchen as often as he can. He volunteers to bake things for me. I told him volunteering in a cooking school would look good on his record, and he's doing just that. He's motivated to take the opportunities he has, and I'm sure that once he learns how he will also go look for his own opportunities.
This is a clear example of how laziness can hold one back. I'm very interested to see where these two are in 10 years. |