Ketcham82

Hey everyone.

School's almost here and for those who look forward to another year at Cal Poly this means another shot at finding the right/right now person for you.

I suggest we start a thread where everyone and anyone can come in here and post their dating tips for either guys or girls and gossip about what the opposite sex likes in a first date. I've got some tips of my own but they may not apply to everyone. So if you think you can top someone else's strategies, please come forward with the truth.

Based on my previous experience, which hasn't been very extensive, I've found that girls like straightforward guys who are confident about themselves and carry conversations about anything. Girls like jokes, stories and even words of wisdom. And just like I've told guys in the past, it's a lot easier to hit on a girl during her ovulation period... that's when their hormones are running wild and they become a lot more sensitive all over their body.

So take these tips with precautions and feel free to bring up stories about your previous experiences... Girls this includes you too! Us guys want to hear what you've got to say about us after a first successful/unsuccessful date.

Ketch.

JPWRana

if ur not good looking... then its harder for you.

The uglier the girl is, the easier it is for the guy.

I recommend you guys listen to Eddie Murphey's "Raw"

Keng

Listen to Tom Leykis, he's the man.
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LaRicanBoi

im sorry but im gonna have to stick to eddie murphy and go get the zebra chick so she wont want HALF! hahaaha. as long as a girl is funny and not boring its cool

Ketcham82

You see, if think like that girls will notice all you care about is the looks. If you just don't pay attention to those things and concentrate in being a regular guy, girls will look beyond the skin.

Trust me. There are plenty of good looking girls out there with some really ugly fat ass guys. Take their approach and stop looking in the mirror so much.

Ketcham82

By the way, does anyone know what this sign -->>00<<-- mean?

If you can guess it, this thread is going to get closed up.

Ketch.

JPWRana

im gonna guess that that symbol means breast.

JPWRana

I'm all for male chauvenism and "machismo" but dayam that man is sometimes a moron!! ever see his hate mail??!?!? its actually really funny of how ppl hate his ass.

Keng

He speaks the fact tho. Man get the hottest chick he can afford, chick get the richest man she can attract.

Admin

Based on psychology and polls, females tend to choose a tall male rather than a short guy. So tall guys have a lot of advantage.

You got to admit, appearance is very crucial in attracting the opposite sex. Girls and guys spend hundreds and thousands of dollars in shopping, car modifications, and cosmetic surgeries in order to improve their looks and styles. And it is part of the American lifestyle (capitalism/media). Consumers are bombarded with advertisements that controls our lifestyle. The media decides who we are, what is cool, what is in, what is considered sexy, what is hot, and etc. And if you don't follow the crowd (trend), it is very difficult to find a date.

Beauty is in the eyes (and heart) of the beholder. Damn you tall guys!
Sorry for my boring post. Just wanted to share one side of the story.

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Keng

Those people who say they only care about the inside, I call it BS :P

JPWRana

yeah... that's what fat ppl say.

btw... i'm 6'3"

Keng

Bah you are too tall..I am only 5'7"

Anderson

I'm also 6' 3". Babe magnet am I.
Just be cool about everything and it gets the job done.

Ketcham82

Close but no cigar. Try a little lower.

Ketcham82

Height is good but it's really all about the charisma. You have to look beyond what the statistics read. Better-looking people have a better self-esteem, thus more charisma. But if you get past the superficial aspects, you might score a lot more than you think.

Just give it a shot. Don't be shy. Talk to girls/guys. Approach them and talk to them face to face. Pretend to be interested, if you're not, in their conversations and ask for a date.

Sinister

I'd thought this topic make good for my first post on these forums.

Well to get the first fact out. I'm a guy (obviously) and I have a few ways of going about the dateing spot.
I've read and looked over the post's to see whats covered and to see what I've agreed with. I've so far only agreed with the idea of women likeing men being stright forward but also honest.

Through my times of dateing and looking and searching. I've found that look, you show women what you want and what you perhaps look for in a relationship. I've informed them basicly like this.
"I'm stright out bold and honest. I tell it how it is and I expect the same in return, however.. as they say. the truth hurts and if you feel a question may offened you with my answer, you should be ready for that when you ask that question."

That right there is basicly my ace. What it does, is inform them that I don't hold nothing back. That I don't tolrate the drama or the bs that sometimes can pop up. Cause I'll stright out walk away if any drama pop's up. The women I have dated with this used experience have grown to respect me and even if the relationship did not work out, they are currently my best friends and also still respect me for their own reasons.

Yes, my tip sounds rude and very boild to some people but you know what, I've relized more of the 'respectable' women will be drawn to you and those of on the more loyal side. Don't get me wrong, i don't down the party type of women but I just.. found them through my own experience. To be not worth the effort. Due to bad experiences in the past.

On the other hand. As I've noticed through my dateing years. I found that writeing poems to express feelings when it comes to those 'Special Times' or "moments' that it helps. This is for if your seeking a long-term relationship guys. It works best if you're able to write a poem but not one formed of thought but formed out of what you feel. Yes.. any other time most women will tolrate us not to be the so 'not so romantic' type of person but they enjoy knowing that we can be.

beside writeing poems, try taking on romantic dinners when you wish to express your love towards her. (again for those in long-term relationships) but try this after you been with her for six months or more or even year or more. I advise more than a year. Reason why i say do these things. If shes the very careing type of person that seeks to take care of you mentel wise, phy and emotinally. Then she deserves such special treatment in return beside showing the same treatment right back. She'll see that you care and love her greatly.

However.. I've learned that if you show this too much, the day that your not able to be so nice or rmantic (due to disbutes and such). She may get up and leave. So you must always show. That when you go about doing soft, gentel or romantic things. Always do them when you feel their needed. Not done on V-day or her brithday but on the moemnts you feel that its time you show that side of your self to her.

In simple words, know when to be the lion but at times, show her that soft kitten she loves and adores. The person she fell in love with.

This is just my past experience and my advise from what I've learned. I hope it becomes useful to some of you.

Yours Truly
Sin

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Ketcham82

Pretty good.

I've also found that girls like down-to-earth kind of guys. Guys that don't hide anything are usually the ones that succeed more often. One good pointer to keep in mind when going out or dating or just looking for a girl is to keep your guard off. Try not to come off TOO strong. If they sense that you're after one thing (sex), you're history, unless you're really all that great looking and they're willing to give it up. But on the other hand, girls like guys that pretend to be 'uninterested' and smooth. A guy that takes his time to take a girl out and talk to her is a winner.

Sinister

indeed.

However.. We know that most guys are grunts ( as a term that most don't have a sentive side) but this is where my.. thoughts of going about relationships and dtaeing get me laid most of the time and anytime. See.. When i tell them something (and this is true) I infrom them I don't find sex important. So i'd make em' wait about three months befor getting laid. (Durning this time, I'm just seeing them befor dateing them). So after shareing a few details as to how my morals pervent such of finding sex an importance. this makes them naturally want the guy more.

At the same time. this is allowing me to make them to be friends with benfits in the long run. So after the three month wait (or less depending how far I can progress in a short amount of time but roughly three months of time) then I stare dateing them and having sex with them. However, I inform them that I don't see the three special words unless I mean them. The whole "I love you" words to them. So they obtain an understanding that I only say it to those whom I make a long-term relationship with. not just dateing. I wait about from a year to two befor saying it. So it shows them how serious I am about the dateing leading to a relationship.

In the end (if it does not lead to a long-term relationship) They enjoy knowing me and wish to keep that closeness to me. At this point, most of them I have made to keep an emotinal connection with me and also a mentel connection. So they still love and deeply care. even as friends and so at this point. This is the chance (that works with most women in the end) to be friends with benfits. So durning the time I'm not dateing anyone. I have someone to have sexual intercourse with. Durning the times I am not dateing or seeing anyone and not in a long-term relationship.

So this helps keep being sexually active. In the end.. the waiting and being the nice guy pays off. Just some people need to know how to go about it and learn to wait erverything out. For everything pays off in its own ways. Am I useing them? of course not. Am I lying to them? nope. However.. my morals and shareing it witht hem has kept me laid durning the times of not dateing or seeing anyone.

So yes, in the end sex is one thing. however.. when not having the emotinal bond with a person and with no ties. Just them knowing their my sex buddy, Sex becomes the only thing in common when it comes to the bedroom and not dateing or seeing anyone. Its only fair and right. However when it comes to relationships and dateing. I don't desire to use them as a sex object. I wish to take care of them mentel wise, their feelings and everything else in between not dealing with sex. Its to only express how much I care and to show how special they are as I would expect the same in return. So it all evens out.

Thats if of course you can see how it does.

Thern again.. this is just how I go about things and I advise men to do the same. Many long term benfits in the end when going about it that way.


Yours Truly
Sin

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Anderson

"I love you" phrase only works in high school, I would think. College girls are smarter than that.
Sinister, you ought to work on your spellings.